I decided the other night that I wanted to be more vague. Really want to cultivate it as a quality. You can do that you know. Reinvent yourself. Not just for credit fraud either. But as an exercise in character building. Become a different person. One with new super powers.
Being nebulous as gas is a good one. To be able to disappear into vacuous vapor. And leave them swinging at air.
It’s a power I’m only beginning to harness, but it’s already yielded rich rewards. The power to be vague. With long periods of silence in between. Vague and laconic. Somewhere in that quiet, your next move becomes clear.
It’s an important skeleton key to freeing yourself from the cage of modern life. No wonder I blew it. I always tripped myself up with specifics. Tried to tell the cop too much to prove I wasn’t guilty. That worked great.
Like a charm.
Fucking specificity.
Always talked myself into a corner–one I could only break out of by clawing like rat set on fire with oil. Very ungraceful. Unladylike. Screeching and scratching my way out of life’s jams. It was all so unnecessary. A fool’s errand.
I should’ve been hiding in the foofy cloud of an ambiguous response. Don’t try to explain anything. Just smoke-bomb the room with a big cumulus question mark.
It’s getting yourself out of the most ass-burning trouble with a “Hey, it is what it is,” as your only defense. And maybe a shoulder shrug.
It is what it is.
How can you argue with that? Locked in logic. Universally applicable. Bullet-deflecting smoothness of surface. No traction at all for a counter.
It is what it is. If that is my only assertion during any conflict, short of a shank attack, I will win. Simply by default. Because what I claim is true. Something is what it is.
That leaves them with having to argue that it is what it isn’t. And that’s a harder row to plow.
Trust me.
It is.
Really amazing what can be achieved with a simple hunch of the shoulders. And a blank look. Gotta have that. Essential. If you can toss a pinch of boredom in that’s even better. Not like you’re in a chemically-induced stupor, but existentially resigned. Like apathy. But more spiritual.
The trick is to become one with the wallpaper behind you. Blend into nothingness. Pretty soon people forget you’re there, and then why they were pissed at you. If the heat gets too much, I’ll disappear into Oneness. I’m not ashamed to admit it. I’ll cease fighting everything.
“Maybe.” “I don’t recall.” “That might be true.” “I don’t know.” “I’m sorry.”
These are not the responses of an obtuse idiot. These are power words. Words that open the Gates of Heaven. And the Door to the Palace of Slack.
These days, I don’t want to fight with anybody. I just want to be left alone. To be able to enjoy time with friends. To eliminate as much drama as my housecleaning skills allow. I want to Aikido any bullshit right past me. And move on.
Whether it’s some paranoid fanatic screaming some insane and offensive political diatribe in my face, or somebody accusing me of the most heinous character deficiencies, I just nod. Regardless of how pissed I may be, or how much shit I have to throw back in their face.
Go slack. Give slack. Get slack.
“You may be right. ”
Put hands in pockets and shrug.
“But I am right!”
“Maybe.”
That’s it. Don’t say anymore. Let your eyes slowly roll up white like Lurch, to let them know you’ve left the building. Stand there like a propped up corpse. Go mummy on them. Just be. Listen to a distant siren. A dog bark. A fly buzz. A radio from a passing car.
It’s hard to argue with wallpaper.
Eventually they run out of gas and shut up. And maybe even leave.
Anyway, it’s just another skill set I’m working on in sobriety. Then there’s total honesty. That’s the ultimate mind-fuck. People don’t know how to handle it. Really freaks them out.
A few years ago when I was personal training at a gym franchise, I came into work at 8 AM for my first client. I see the owner training a lady. He’s never there that early. And he rarely trained people at that point in his career. So I knew right away. I was in trouble.
My first time ever.
I go to train my lady and as I’m passing by the owner, he says to me, “I’d like to see you in my office after you’re done with your client.”
“I assume this is about my promotion and raise.”
He just gives me a pained, tight-lipped smile, with nostrils flared and high-tension eyebrows raised in maximum pissed-offness.
Alright. Whatever. If I get fired, I’ll be okay. If I wasn’t going to be okay, it would’ve been long before this.
This is nothing.
I finish with my client and head up the stairs. I knock on the door and he tells me to come in. He’s sitting on his leather throne behind a big desk. I look around. There’s lots of golden trophy statues of muscley men in Speedos surrounding him. Plaques and honors of some sort nailed on the walls. An entire wall of CCTV monitors.
“What time were you supposed to be here today?”
“I thought eight.”
“When was the last time you checked the schedule?”
“I don’t know, maybe three years ago.”
I was serious. I never looked at the schedule. I kept track of the appointments without the posted “schedule.” And unless they threw in a surprise early ringer like they just did, everything went along just fine. So I told him the truth. Well, not the whole truth.
“Scratch that, I’ve never checked the schedule. In the six years that I’ve worked here.”
That was the whole truth.
He just looks at me. He doesn’t know what to say.
He starts sputtering about how they just signed up this new client for a few grand yesterday and put her with me at 7AM, how she got there and waited for me, and how she finally called him and made him drag his ass down to the club to train her.
Well nobody told me. I have a cell phone. Holler at me, bitch. Make sure I’m dialed in. Don’t dry-erase it on a greasy piece of yellow plastic curling up behind the microwave in a filthy employee break room after I leave, and expect me to somehow know. Even if I was Johnny Check-The-Schedule.
Which I am fucking not.
You guys sold her the training after I left for the day, and nobody called me. This is a major fuck-up on your part, dude. No way to run a business. You almost lost a big account. My God.
I bet it hurts, too. Especially since…well…you pride yourself as being Mr. Business man, and shit. So losing big accounts is the fucking worst. I bet you’re a little frightened too. Frightened and angry. Like a teen rehab chick. There there. Don’t worry. I’ll cut you some slack… this time. In fact, I’ll even fall on this sword for you, fraidy cat.
“Well, it looks like I fucked up.”
“Yes! Yes you did! YOU FUCKED UP!”
I nod along. Agreeing. My face pleasant and happy that we can agree. At least we all agree on one thing. I fucked up. On the same page there. Seeing retina to retina. We all vote “yes.” I fucked up. More than once, actually.
“Yep.” I said, “Looks that way.”
“You almost lost us a big account!”
“Wow. That would’ve been bad. Sorry.”
“It would’ve cost this club a lot of money!”
“Good thing you came down and trained her,” I said, bending down to re-tie my Converse.
He goes blank. He can’t process this. I’m completely at ease. Frankly, I was looking forward to the early nap I’d get to take if he fired me on the spot, so I wasn’t entirely indifferent. I was leaning for a certain outcome-but trying to stay neutral. Trying to stay Zen about it.
I finished tying my sneaker, stood up and pulled my workout pants out of my crotch. Gave them a little straightening pat. Okay. What’s next? What do we do now?
“Well, like I said before, I’m sorry. Is there anything else?” I asked him.
He’s looking at me. Looking at me. Looking.
I look back.
Both of us looking at each other. For a long time. A pyramid erodes into sand. Rocks grow. A galaxy implodes.
I stare at the shafts of morning light illuminating the dancing dust across his desk.
The silence is peaceful. I let my mind drift.
I picture a red balloon floating through the streets of Paris. A girl in heels and yoga pants chasing after it. I contemplate death. How it’s really birth. And how that’s really worse than death. Then I remember a redheaded kid in third grade whose constantly snotty nose made it look like he carried peas in his nostrils. God, haven’t thought about him. I look outside the window. A bird flies by. Have to gas up the car before I leave Oxnard. Grateful for the decent mileage it gets. Love that car. Paid for too. Suzuki Esteem. Fuck yeah.
I have to scratch my chin. So I scratch it. Then go back to looking at each other.
Finally.
“No, that’s it, ” he says, dismissing me with a wave of his hand, “Don’t ever let it happen again.”
I stopped by the door.
“Well, I didn’t want it to happen the first time, boss. So I can’t really guarantee it won’t happen again. But I’ll try.”
More looking.
I reach out to shake his hand. He hesitates, then takes it. Shakes it. I smile. He doesn’t.
Good-bye early nap. Oh well.
It is what it is.
I go downstairs. I find out my next client cancelled sick. The next one is at ten. Thank you, Universe. Good looking out for Johnny Honesty. All is not lost.
I go outside and walk to my car. It’s parked in the shade under a tree way back in the lot. I know he’s watching me from one of the monitors. I take the keys out of my sock and open the door. I get in.
I’m grateful the rear seat folds down. It means you can totally stretch out lying down. Perfect for a nap. Perfect nap mobile.
Suzuki Esteem. Fuck yeah.
Fuck Yeah!
TRUDGING THROUGH THE FIRE 